As I said earlier too……Happiness is a state of mind. You deal with people and situations effectively only when you are happy ! Otherwise, in unhappiness, it does not matter what good intentions you have, you will spread only misery by passing on your unhappiness to others.
Our speech is governed by our thoughts and they in turn reflect our state of mind. Sometimes we are unhappy due to certain events, situations we are in or the people we meet and that reflects in our state of mind. We are choosing to be unhappy and when I say this… everyone agrees to this. But, when I tell them that you can chose to be happy..they vehemently disagree with me. How can you chose to be happy? It should happen on its own, they say.
Let me say, once you are unhappy, it does not matter what you get ! Because you are unhappy!! Similarly, when you are happy, it does not really matter what you do not get! Because you are already happy!! This is not mere play of words or mere philosophy.
The true nature of human being is ‘Sat-chit-ananda’ which means being-consciousness-happiness in nutshell. But, despite this true nature, we are always striving to make ourselves happy through other external factors. WE ARE ALWAYS IN PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS!! Through money and more money, through people and more people, through power and more power, through sex and more sex because we forget that our true nature is already a state of a happy mind. We are always choosing be unhappy and that is the problem ! So you have landed up being unhappy.
As a new born child you are happy, and … very happy till you become three years old. After that, the trouble begins when you say, “This is mine!” Instantly, you chose to be unhappy if you do not get what you think is yours. As time and years pass by, you get identified with many things around you…your dolls & toys, then your books, your possessions, your people ( lovers, spouse, relatives etc) and your mind. What you call your mind is just the stuff you picked up along the way from the situations you were in. The kind of mind you have is result of your exposure, picked up from the outside! They are not yours. …you just picked them! And you have got yourself identified with them so much…. that it causes you misery. But, the mind is never yours, do you remember?
You have got yourself identified with your desires and external objects which please your ‘body’ that is not yours. Your are not the body at all ! You are not the mind at all ! They were all developed by picking up things around you. You built your body and mind after borrowing or gathering things like food and thoughts from outside.
Now it is causing misery because you have identified with things that are not yours. You never focused on the fact that only your soul (or consciousness ) is yours ….everything else is taken away.. or can be snatched away from you! You never fed your soul not realizing that… it is the soul alone which is yours …. giving you happiness.
And now… you are in search of a Guru to bring happiness in your life. You attend fellowship meetings if you are a christian or attend spiritual discourses in temples if you are a Hindu. You have still not realized that it is you who chose to be unhappy by identifying with things that are not yours. And now you are struggling to de-identify yourself from the same things you picked up along the way. You are just a soul .. part of the whole…. a minuscule part that you are! Tatt twam Asi…You are That!
Why did you chose to be unhappy? Why did you not chose to be happy, instead?