Feminism has caught on with the new generation .. with exposure, education, lifestyle quotient taking the center stage! The basic line among today’s girls ..”I, Me and Myself and hell with the others” and this has led to an increase in ‘She’ brats – the heading of this post as well as discussion.
I have always felt that girls and women are emotionally weak but mentally strong and the reverse is true for men. So this leads to a situation where women definitely need a man in her life while that is not always necessarily true with men. But, men definitely need the support, love, affection of women to get ahead in a marital relationship. Basically, men lack all these qualities and only a woman can substitute this deficiency in men.
There is growing tendency among today’s women to be a ‘brat’ and the reasons are not far to find .. now, there are smaller unit ‘better off’ families ( only a single child or two at the most), independence from daily household chores (‘cooking’ hated by today’s women, i know), equality of sexes, freedom of speech among women .. you would have noticed this behavioral change and some of the women use profane language quite freely .. and growing self-indulgence in women in place of self-denial practiced earlier.
Nearly a decade ago, this was not the case with women but nowadays it is not unusual to see a woman indulging in “Adam-teasing” by not just wearing ‘provocative’ dresses underscoring their right to freedom in dressing. Today’s women indulge in smoking, drinking alcohol or having sexual promiscuity. There is a growing tendency among young girls to spiral out of control and not just being ‘a dumb listener’ to her father. This behavior is seen everywhere .. in corporate offices, homes and now, it is the men who should be ‘on guard’ to avoid any trouble. The cases of drunken driving by women is growing in numbers in India. They are upfront in demanding their rights as they are surely bright, bold and beautiful. And, they do not mind flaunting it!!
Psychiatrists hold parents as responsible for churning out ‘She’ brats! With both parents working long hours to meet material needs, they replace the love they should give to their girl children with expensive gifts. I am not professing that women are any lesser than men, but while it is still acceptable for a boy to be a brat, it is still not acceptable for a girl to be a brat! Women symbolize being a home maker, having compassion, empathy, kindness, forgiveness and love. But this is not happening any longer and that is resulting in more divorces in India. This situation is clearly a off-shoot of western influence and lately, there is a growing number of broken homes in India. The objective of this discussion is not recommending men to be a male chauvinist. I am a great advocate of woman’s rights! In fact, women are physiologically superior to men and are endowed with much more tolerance and patience. They make some of the best Human resource managers in the corporate world. The issue is not about equality of sexes! It is about who will play the ‘woman’s role’ if women start behaving like men?
Can two men make a home? No! Can a man take care of a child like a woman does? Again, No! The western influence is only making things difficult for Indian traditional families. Can we have ‘She’ brats? Why are the women ignoring the truth that the men can never replace them! Women can dress like men and get into tight jeans and short tops but men do not ever wear skirts and blouses. Women are emotionally equipped to hold her family together, to bring up her children with love and affection, to add romance in a marital relationships, and to make a beautiful world. How can a ‘She’ brat do all this?
Adipurusha 
Hinges on the threshold of male chauvinism,however the sugar coating at the end is trying to rub away the sour feeling.Woman emancipation,liberalised thinking,equal rights has come to stay.House husbands can do a lot of things the author has referred to and wearing pants by women is convenience not anything else.
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Posted by yaaro oruvan | March 3, 2010, 12:40 pmthere is no ‘male chauvinism’ sought in today’s world..but we want women to remain women..and not ape men.
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Posted by rambuna | March 4, 2010, 8:16 amI agree with yaaro oruvan, it reeks of male chauvinism.
“while it is still acceptable for a boy to be a brat, it is not still acceptable for a girl to be a brat!”
Who says that, only a man – the statement lacks credibility.
“They can dress like men….and get into tight jeans and short tops but men cannot never wear skirts and blouses even if they try hard to do so.”
Wearing these modern clothes is only about comfort, does not change the role of the individual.Even if a man wore all those ladylike clothes he can’t take over the role of a woman. A woman can manage very well on her own.
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Posted by lotus lady | March 3, 2010, 11:21 pmHey, thanks for visiting! i think you missed the point..even i feel women cannot be replaced, so why ape men??
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Posted by rambuna | March 4, 2010, 8:10 am@lotus lady-that was swell.gender inequality ,bias should never become a subject
in this modern era.
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Posted by yaaro oruvan | March 4, 2010, 8:03 pmactually, i feel sorry that i am mis-understood! girl children are basically brought up in a different manner and they become mature earlier, supportive to parents/ husband,altruistic,helpful, patient, tolerant and needless to say… behind each successful man there is a woman! what i am referring to is the growing number of divorces in the coming generation,adam-teasing,etc. I see this happening in offices, families since women are liberated with increased earning power/ education and they are insisting on personal space too. Now, this is welcome for individual growth of women but men are not yet tuned to that. Men are not able accept this change in women so easily resulting in divorces or estranged alliances. Personally, i find pleasure in making a cup of tea for my wife every morning/ helping in kitchen for quite long…since i am married for 15 years.I am self-reliant in these aspects…and i can take credit for phenomenal developmental change in my wife…from a docile lady to career graph motivated executive! Leading to vibrant discussions between ourselves on various topics of mutual interest daily etc. Definitely, that is why she supported me in trying times too.
I am referring to ‘She’ brats that really exist in today’s time’s – they are very aggressive, feminist to the extent of self-defeat, promiscuous etc. Some times, they behave manly leading to lesser and lesser ladies in the society…they talk about sexual equality! Does it mean…..they will behave like men?? This kind of woman-liberation has not really helped in US too…there is only self-serving relationships in such societies…and ample divorces.
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Posted by rambuna | March 4, 2010, 10:57 pm“I see this happening in offices, families since women are liberated with increased earning power/ education and they are insisting on personal space too.”
Are you saying that if they (women) are not earning or educated, they don’t have a right to personal space? Who says so?
“Now, this is welcome for individual growth of women but men are not yet tuned to that. Men are not able accept this change in women so easily resulting in divorces or estranged alliances.”
Now, just because men are not mature enough to handle this does not mean that the growth of women needs to be stunted.
“This kind of woman-liberation has not really helped in US too…there is only self-serving relationships in such societies…and ample divorces.”
Now why do we need to compare ourselves to the US, it is not like they are most ideal society in the world.
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Posted by lotus lady | March 4, 2010, 11:25 pmI am glad that you are making a valid point and quick analysis…it is a complex issue! There is no simple answer to this! roles are getting reversed and altered to meet the changing requirements.Good, i am impressed with your comments.
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Posted by rambuna | March 5, 2010, 7:49 amIt is not a complex issue, it is just that man’s immaturity and his insecurity is coming through.
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Posted by lotus lady | March 5, 2010, 11:07 pmsomebody is wriggling out,but the banter was getting interesting.
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Posted by yaaro oruvan | March 5, 2010, 5:19 pmThis post reeks of male chauvinism, and is terribly misinformed. Studies are showing more and more that it is getting tough to generalize various qualities or problems as being endemic to men or women. As for women becoming she brats , I think it is no business of men or women in general what a particular woman does with her life.
Women are doing fine at the workplace, and men are doing fine at home. Some people are just better suited to take care of homes and some are better suited for the rat-race. That dichotomy is independent of the male-female dichotomy.
Everyone deserves personal space. No matter what they do.
Who are we to decide whether two men or two women are capable of running homes and raising children?
Lastly, every topic deserves to be aired, no matter how ridiculous the premise. The freedom to present controversial ideas and unpopular opinions is true freedom. So, you have every right to your opinion. However, it is unlikely to be taken seriously because there are no facts to buoy many of your statements, every one of which demand a long well-framed rebuttal, the kind I don’t have the time to write.
@lotus lady
In your last comment, you have considered this post to be a referendum on male insecurity and immaturity. That reeks of female chauvinism: I know this term is not in vogue yet, but with the advent of women liberation, this was going to happen sooner or later. One just expects women to learn from years of mistakes that chauvinistic men have made, and not repeat them.
Happy Women’s day to all! (It’s coming soon right?)
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Posted by liberalcynic | March 6, 2010, 6:33 amWell, there is no attempt to wriggle out of a situation/ premise that was mooted by me. What I fail to understand…why others do not accept that there is gender inequality today too! Some dare to talk about it…but only to find a solution to the problem.Feminism is catching up..does not deny existence of male chauvinism.When two ‘individuals’ have to live together..naturally there will be a difference of opinion on at least the main issues affecting their lives. I have seen ‘lifestyle change’ in case of many ‘individuals’ after marriage for better or worse…more so for worse..causing divorces that are alarmingly increasing in India. And, this is happening due to ‘liberation of women’…women who were silent or ‘cowed down’ participants in the marriage for long! Definitely, this cannot be denied by ‘so called’ liberated women too.
Male chauvinist will not talk about it out of insecurity or Male pride. The Author is talking about it to highlight the problems faced by the institution of marriage in today’s times. It is a complex issue..yes, because besides accommodating ‘liberated’ women there is no other solution to solving the problem of ’emerging trend’ of broken homes. And, men are not ready to do so more than accommodating! How many men make a cup of tea for their wives or help her out in kitchen willingly?
Women will not take any more ‘crap’ from men!! They have changed!!! They do not mind even if homes break!! Now, where am I talking about male chauvinism…i am talking about feminism! Are married women able to do what they aspired to do before marriage…even today? Can we accommodate ‘She’ brats in the institution of marriage manned by men for long? Will feminism promote co-existence of male and female? It is a very mature topic requiring mature response and not emotional outbursts from the readers? It is the women who held the families together earlier because… marriage mattered. Now it is not the case…what will happen to the children of broken homes? Can we save homes from getting broken? Please address to the topic.
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Posted by rambuna | March 6, 2010, 10:46 pm“women who were silent or ‘cowed down’ participants in the marriage for long! They have changed!!! They do not mind even if homes break!! The Author is talking about it to highlight the problems faced by the institution of marriage in today’s times.”
So, any trouble in a marriage is blamed on the woman, a man is not MAN enough to accept or share the blame.WOW, why would anyone want to respect these men.
I really don’t understand how this post is not chauvinistic.
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Posted by lotus lady | March 8, 2010, 6:40 amwho sacrifices more in a marriage…try and figure out and you get the answer! Everytime, it is the women who adjust, what happens when they do not? Why don’t you understand…it is quite simple. the topic is about the repercussions on ‘marriage’ as institution, if women get liberated and are overbearing, aggresive to meet their needs, lose the charm of feminity…that is not accepted! We are not talking about men at all..in this post. I very well know what most ‘men’ are and so do you? But then, men are also changing…are they not??
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Posted by rambuna | March 9, 2010, 10:18 am1. “women will not take crap from men”.. it is a pity that they ever did, and they still do in lots of parts of the world.
2. “she brats” – i think that may be a lighthning-rod term.. women (when they are [thankfully] economically so privileged) are standing up for themselves! Men are not used to that.. maybe that’s why they see them as brats.
3. Promiscuity – well, i think men are more to blame for that than women. When is the last time men did a “double-take” on an ugly or covered-up woman?
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Posted by avalok ishwar | March 8, 2010, 5:57 amWhat am i glad about….few women are getting liberated..the term ‘brats’ is used to highlight when they lose feminity, they can remain feminine and still be liberated..yes, they are economically well off and in today’s time, express their intentions openly if they want to flirt and be promiscuos ( even after marriage), they are not tied down any longer…many divorces are intiated by them..what else..is it so offending if they are called brats..don’t you find them unpleasant at times?
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Posted by rambuna | March 9, 2010, 10:24 amThe only part of a woman’s life that a man cannot do is give birth and that is simply because of the difference in anatomy. This she brat concept is absolutely ridiculous. Why is it acceptable for a boy to be a brat but not for a girl? And girls are not aping men by wearing pants, that is rubbish.
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Posted by Navya | June 19, 2015, 6:45 pmIt is not about the pants .. it is about woman carving a niche place for herself in the society .. retaining their femininity and not just compete with men on every issue! Really speaking, no one should be a brat (ill-behaved)!
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Posted by Raman Ramamurthy | June 20, 2015, 3:26 pm