Mahatma Gandhi asked: ” Can you be the change you wish to see?
Quite often, the tendency is to take credit for all that is good around us and blame others for anything that is not good! We fail to realise that we can be an agent, a catalyst to bring about change in others as well as our surroundings by changing ourselves. And, we do it: but, only for personal reasons. Let us realise and accept we are all interconnected to each other! For example, if we want to see a clean environment that is free from auto pollution, filled with greenery, spotted with trees that provide us shade during the heat of summer; what are the steps we have taken to ensure this?
We want others to be nice to us: respect us, be friends with us, understand us beyond their own self-interest, right? Our wants are many causing anguish, disappointment, enmity, misery to ourselves; when they are not satisfied!
We are only differentiated aspects of a single reality. We are both the observer and the observed. All of us are different aspects of single reality. YOU HAVE TO SEE OTHERS AS YOU SEE YOURSELF! So far, so clear! Because this is what is preached by all the religions without any exception. Most do not even agree that there is a single Reality. They view this concept of a single reality – with skepticism. What is the use discussing all this with such people?
How can this ‘fact’ of single reality be translated in to our daily lives?
But, there is one person who practised this concept of single reality: Mahatma Gandhi. He could manoeuvre the emotions of millions around him through his self control, self expression, or with a humble request! He proved to be the change he wished to see!!
It is important to gain emotional freedom as a first step – to be free of any resentments, grievances, guilt and jealousy. Exchange all this ‘negative’ emotions with love and compassion for others but without any expectations from them in return. Easily said than done! If you believe in the concept of single reality; you can do all this I am talking about, quite effortlessly. How do we do this?
Start with freedom – Do not depend on any one! I am not suggesting so much independence like Mahatma Gandhi had! He was extra-ordinary, he even did his haircut himself; he spun his own clothes to wear; he loved animals and used to feed them by himself without fail every day, even after others started calling him Mahatma. I remember what he has mentioned in his auto biography: One woman came to him for a solution saying her son ate too much gud (a sweet preparation) and asked Gandhi his advice to help her son to stop this habit. Gandhi told her to meet him after a weak. And, when she visited him again along with her son after a week; he called the son and told him to stop eating Gud! The woman was perplexed and asked Gandhi, “why did you not tell this solution to us in our first meeting?” Gandhi replied: I wanted to see whether I can stop eating too much Gud before advising your son!! He became the change he wished to see!
Jesus Christ said the same : “Be good to others as you want them unto you!”
In every scripture, self-governance is implied! We do not know ourselves very well. We expect, expect, expect!! We are not aware of our strengths but we are worried about our weaknesses. Most of the people I have met do not even accept they have weaknesses. If they do not accept it; how would they get rid of them? How can they be the change they wish to see? We are gauging ourselves by wealth, property owned because we are only concerned what others will think? We are not happy because we value what others will feel? What others have or own? Our lives are spent in darkness – not knowing anything about ourselves: we do not believe in self study, self introspection, self control, auto suggestion and its powers, self initiation, self motivation and many more that can serve to be a change we wish to see!
Life starts with you and ends with you! You meet others – people, events, situations and all – to help the process of evolution of yourself. Nothing belongs to anyone in this world! So stop expecting from others! Be the change you wish to see in yourself, in others around you, in your situations, in your relatives, in your surroundings, in your society, in your community, in your religion, in your country and in the world.
You be the change you wish to see!