Loneliness is a problem for many; especially the old.
But, what I am writing is not about loneliness; it is ‘solitude’ wherein one cherishes to be alone. One should strive to experience solitude earlier and in effect, gain control of his mind. Such a controlled mind creates focus in the task taken up, builds self confidence, and aligns the daily activities to accommodate and indulge in writing, reading or even listening to music in solitude.
So, how do we attain this blessed state of solitude?
Well, you attain solitude .. the moment you shed away the ‘I’ factor and identify you with the Whole! In solitude, the mind is silent and uncluttered: we begin to live from within. I do not encourage a life of loneliness; what I recommend is few minutes or an hour .. or few hours from your spare time .. spent alone with yourself to experience the whole or the oneness!
Sri Aurobindo says: “You must gather yourself within more firmly. If you disperse yourself constantly and go out of the inner circle, you will constantly move about in the pettiness of the ordinary outer nature”
In fact, every management theory prophesizes to cultivate ‘inner locus of control’ and ‘self-introspection’ to identify yourself with the larger picture or bigger perspective and grow ourselves in stature!
Otherwise, as slaves of the mind, we look at all our unfulfilled longings and desires through a magnifying glass and make ourselves miserable. A leader should be able to divide the time available to him and allocate some for his personal growth. Such a habit will develop in him – ‘non-reactive attentiveness’ – a critical requirement while leading his team, analyzing situations or studying proposals; it develops self study, increases self knowledge and confidence besides better communication. It also develops quiet watchfulness!
In Bhagavad Gita, ‘Self’ or the part of the whole universal self is considered to be the central part – like a hub among the spokes of the wheel. When we are centered firmly – we can watch well, think well and act as per the requirements of the situation we are in. I do not suggest selfishness as a requisite; but an ability to disassociate or detach oneself from the problem or situation helps to arrive at an unbiased solution. With such regular practice, one begins to possess or starts developing – a ‘revered’ analytical mind.
In contrary, Loneliness prevents us from living in the present moment: it crowds the mind with the memories of the past and anxieties of the future. And in such a clouded mind, we cannot experience – non-reactive attentiveness!